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My Family – Instant Sean

Category: My Family

  • Saying goodbye before I have to.

    Saying goodbye before I have to.

    When you own a pet, you know that at some point you will have to say goodbye to them. For most pets, humans have longer lifespans and we spend our lives loving them as they love us.

    But I should start at the beginning.

    8 years ago I lost my best friend, the dog that kept me from going insane during the divorce from my ex-wife. Mugsy was one hell of a dog. For years after he left this earth I decided that I wasn’t going to have a dog anymore.

    But I also remember how my wife BEGGED and pleaded with me to get a new dog.

    How many times have I said no since Joanna and I started to mourn the loss of our wonderful family member Red Raider Von Lubbock? (Yes, that was his official AKC name)

    It was closing in on a cool 10K when I talked to my mom.

    She was the former breeder and knew all the places to find good dogs and where to separate the wheat from the chaff as my late grandpa might say.

    So, one night before Christmas, right before mom was to go onto a trip to Switzerland and Germany to go to market, I brought up the idea.

    She was cautious but excited.

    “He would want you to move on…, ” she said with a tone in her voice that I have heard many times but ignored.

    I let it go and never brought it up again until Friday night as a lark.

    “Why don’t you find us a puppy mom?”

    “Two,” Joanna said with the tone of more of a wish, than a request.

    “ONE, no more. No less.”

    So Mom was off and Friday was a bust, her usual suspects were either out of the business or had changes their number.

    I had completely forgotten about it, and Joanna was sad, but knew that when the time was right, we’d find the right dog.

    Now, my mom had started again on Saturday and had asked of me and Jo our favorite things to look for. Joanna wanted a Black and Tan Dachshund, but it didn’t matter to me. It was about the personality that had molded me from Brooke, grandpa’s black lab, to Mugs, that to this day must not be taunted.

    “When you see my dog mom, you’ll know. You’ll see something in his eye, a fire that won’t quit. If you see that. You will have found my dog.”

    I had forgotten about that early in the day call, knowing that no matter what, if something was going to happen, it would happen when I least expected it.

    Joanna and I were having a late dinner at On the Border (sorry FTC, no payment by them here) when Mom called. I had my mouth full and I missed the call and just thought that I would call her back.

    Then she called again.

    Something was up.

    “You have a new baby dachshund, a black and tan dapple. Beautiful markings and Sean, I saw a couple of others, but this dog had fire. He was fearless in playing with the dogs larger than he.”

    Joanna and I had some names in mind, but I never named a dog without looking at him, I mean, there are some dogs that are named SPOT for a reason.

    Joanna HAD to go to Petsmart, then Target (dog Woof!) to get the animal all sorts of right items. She looked at dog clothing but my John Casey growl caused her to walk away.

    So we went to the house staying up till two in the morning, cleaning the house preparing for one dog.  Joanna wanted to get the dog right then, but I thought that we should wait until the 30th and I would pick up the dog while she was doing a jewelry party in San Angelo. However, life isn’t how we plan sometimes.

    And along came Keegan

    The next morning as we woke up to go to church my dad and mom called.

    One of my nieces, Kaitlyn had fallen MADLY in love with “Spotty” as she called him.

    “If you don’t come and get him today, you’ll lose him. I can guarantee that,” my dad said.

    My dad rarely kids.

    I told my mom that we really wasn’t ready to go.

    She was disappointed and I took a shower trying to figure out how I could get the dog on Saturday after my promotional remote for work.

    I had brought a dusty soft plastic dog kennel and a blanket and we had reached a little past Abilene when my Mom, who had given in and went to get my niece Kaitlyn her own puppy, called and asked the question that has turned this family upside down…

    “Would you like another one? Someone to play with while you two are at work?” There was nothing I can do, but hand the phone to Joanna and a glint in her eye of pure joy began.

    So as we got to my parents house Dad opened the door and ignoring requests for hugs until we forced them on him, led us to the cage.

    Led us to our dog.

    Now he was the our one choice, the perfect dog. And Aengus is gaelic for One Choice so Aengus McGee joined our family.

    We played outside and had some fun and Mom brought in our second dog. He shook and shook , scared as he could be.

    But when we let him down to potty he became an Olympic athlete.  He darted from here and there, wiggling out of people’s hands and he was so smart that he would do things so we wouldn’t catch him (i.e. hiding underneath the truck).

    We named him Keegan Patrick, Keegan for his fiery personality and speed, and Patrick for my late brother, who seemed to always be wiggling out of situations.

    After dinner and hugs, we started for home.

    That was 6 years ago.

    Thursday night Keegan came in limping on his back right leg.

    Friday afternoon he couldn’t walk.

    Saturday morning he wouldn’t drink.

    This morning he wouldn’t look at me.

    I know he would rather be with his brother, chasing and killing dove, you haven’t had fun until your dog scares a dove into crashing into a fence, picking it up gently, then placing it at your feet with pride.

    “LOOK AT WHAT I BROUGHT YOU SEAN!”

    The day will come where he will leave me, but as for now, I will remember the times watching football together, him scaring away door to door salespeople and laying on his back, nuts in the air as the sun warmed him. I will miss throwing the ball and you chasing it over and over again until you said ENOUGH!

    It’s not time for you to go Keegan, but I don’t want you to hurt anymore. You are a good dachshund and I will miss you.

    I will take care of you as long as it takes for you to get better, but if you don’t, know that I love you.

     

  • Thanks Grandpa!

    Thanks Grandpa!

    Yesterday I talked about miracles and inaction. It reminds me of a story my late grandfather once told me:

    A very good man walked the earth, he took care of the sick and poor, giving to others more than he gave himself. Every night he would pray, “Dear God, I follow your son, I do good deeds, how many more people could I help if I won the lottery.”

    Every drawing he would never win. This continued for years until the man was on his deathbed. As his family and friends surrounded his hospice bed, the man looked to the sky, clouds covering the last sunset he would ever be able to see and he spoke.

    “Dear God I followed your son, I did good deeds, could you see all the people who surround me for my kindness & generosity. Why wouldn’t you ever let me win the lottery.”

    The skies cleared and the most beautiful sunset shown for the man as the Lord replied.

    “My child, I am proud of everything that you have done, but why couldn’t you ever meet me halfway and buy a ticket?”

    Miracles only happen through action not through inaction. Good intentions have the same results as inaction. Don’t blame others for your own failures. ‪#‎Encourage‬

  • Why I love her…

    Why I love her…

    Today, my wife went home. Not because I wanted her, but because her parents needed her to. She went home because that’s what daughters do when they are only children. They go home to help their parents around the holidays.

    This is why I love her.

    Joanna allows me to be neurotic and obsessive over little things because she knows that if I take care of the little things, the big things are automatic for me. She allows me to play my video games, have long conversations with Social Media GIANTS from around the world and take her when she isn’t feeling well for a ride around the loop because she doesn’t feel like being in the house anymore.

    She allows me to be the best version of me possible, even with my flaws.

    This is why I love her.

    I try my best not to get involved with drama, because I dislike drama. I want everyone to be cooperative, friendly and encouraging to others. Not that many people do that in this world.

    She supports my vision.

    This is why I love her.

    Joanna lives in a town far away from her parents because I have a career here. She has sacrificed so I might flourish. She encourages me to be better every day and is the first one to tell me when I have failed & hug me afterwards.

    This is why I love her.

    She is a private person and I will probably get yelled at for telling you so much about her, but I have to.

    She fights for those who have no voice and lends her voice to others. She is the one whose ethics are amazing and rather than others who have asked for me to bend what I believe, making me even more ethical. She is proud of me and loves me unconditionally.

    This is why I love her.

    She says that dislikes small dogs, but will do whatever it takes when our dog has an epileptic seizure. Her compassion for animals is never-ending and

    This is why I love her.

    I hope that my friends get an advocate that has such love, compassion, honor, ethics and is 1 /10 of the woman who my wife Joanna Watson Donahue is.

    Our anniversary is on the 19th. We’ve survived 5 years together.  Her late grandmother, who I love like my own, used to say to me when we walked in, “Have you beat Jo yet?” and when I told her no, she’d reply, “well you should!” She’d turn to Joanna and smile.

    We’ve survived five years of death, heartache, hospitals, bills, drama, hatred, failures and misery…

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    because of love, honor, dedication, compassion, friendship, peanut butter sandwiches, pushing to get my degree & the love of two puppies in a WAY too small house.

    I will be somewhere where I can not write this all down where you can see it on our anniversary, but I think doing it a bit early will be fine.

    I am the successful man I am today, because of the love you have shared with me.

    God Bless you Joanna and Happy Early Anniversary!

  • Always learning from Dad

    Always learning from Dad

    So my dad is always teaching, trying to impart knowledge and his experiences on me and my brothers & sisters. After yesterday’s Nebraska Football victory I could tell he had an extra jump in his step.

    “Today’s been a GREAT week. It started with UT losing (my brother in law went to UT), Tech winning, (I went to Tech) , A&M won (My sisters went to A&M) and Nebraska winning (My dad, mom and brother all went to UNL). Just a great week,” my dad started.

    I asked him what about the concept of rooting for the teams in your conference to win, like Baylor and OU.

    “The hell with them, when was the last time you heard a Baylor or OU fan root for Tech? I’ve gotta go take down the animals for your mother. I love you, talk to you later,” my dad finished.

    Every day I appreciate my dad a little more.

  • Help…

    Help…

    Father’s Day: a day set aside to celebrate the great patriarchs in our families. A day we set aside to thank them for them helping us grow into well adjusted men and women.

    Today I’m not going to talk about them directly but about a circumstance that has happened to me at my work and how my father would be very sad today.

    You see, my dad was adopted. Glenn and Mabel were all I know of my dad’s life. While I had a deep and overwhelming family on my mother’s side, I knew Glenn, Mabel and that’s it. There was no depth, no history, no knowledge of the roots of who I was because of my father.

    That was their loss.  For my father never really knew his father and his adopted parents were, can I say , different. I hated calling Nebraska to talk to them because of their eccentricities and I never appreciated them until they were long gone.

    That was on me.

    But that’s not the story I want to tell today. I want to tell you a story about greed and just deserts.

    I used to work with a charity when I first started in radio, long before my CMN days. This charity (not to be mentioned because they are already being punished), came to my work and asked for my help for an event of theirs. I eagerly accepted and helped in any way that I could. I wasn’t a star but I knew of the charities value and worked with them as their event grew larger and larger, till they stopped calling me.

    One year I called after the event was over and asked why I wasn’t given an invitation to this year’s event. Did I do something, or say something to offend them? No.

    “The event has grown so big that we didn’t need your help anymore.”

    So instead of asking for me to refocus my energies, I was sent away.

    I never worked with that charity for over 10 years, until I was recently asked by a friend of the charity to assist them again.

    I declined.

    They were shocked, because my reputation was one of the most generous people around. A person that I would do anything for a stranger and even more for a friend.

    “I was a friend to you when it was convenient for you to need me. I helped you, utilizing my energy, talent and position to grow you to levels that you hadn’t seen before in the past. But when you didn’t need me, you didn’t come to me and find a new way for me to assist you. You tossed me away and napalmed the bridge behind me.  Now you come to me because you need my help again. I can’t in good conscience assist you. It was simple for you to utilize my generosity when  it benefited you. But then once your event was built to where you felt that it would be ‘too much’ if I helped. I’m sorry. I helped you in the bad times, you threw me away in the good times, why should I help you again?”

    They apologized and said, “it would never happen again.”

    It was too late.

    Actions that were made because of greed and because a board member didn’t want to share the publicity of an event with a radio group saddened me when the event ended but it brought up a story my dad told me when we lived in New York.

    He was chopping wood, doing what he called to my mother, “Life’s Work” , and I asked him why he chopped the wood rather than have somebody else do it for him.

    “Easy Sean, I know the value that I have in my own work. Never let another person tell you what your value is. If they don’t truly value your effort, then you will never be seen in their eyes as valuable. You are valuable. I love you.”

    My dad instilled in me the value of self worth. It took a while for me to recognize it, but I see it now.

    I said no to the charity because they didn’t value me.

    I wouldn’t have been valuable if I had said yes.

    Go out and value the work that you do.

    If you need someone to show you the value I will be glad to help

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